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Believe you me — I didn’t want a big to-do. I thankfully didn’t have a big party… and lets face it: putting thirty candles on a cake may have set it and the house on fire. Sisters think alike that way you see, and that is why my sister baked not just one cake for me, but two. She realized that putting all those candles on one is a fire hazard 🙂 and decided to divide the candle burden so to speak.

Cakes

I know, you are dying to get all the details on the cakes. The chocolate one is a four layer cake with ganache filling and poured chocolate on top. That beauty right there just became my all-time favorite. The non-chocolate cake is a russian napoleon cake that consists of well over a dozen layers with a vanilla custard filling and crumb topping. Can’t go wrong with that — trust me.

Party or not, but a family dinner is de rigueur when hubby and I are visiting. Besides baking the cakes, my sister also marinated meats for the most succulent BBQ. My dad grilled. There were several side-dishes that my mom made while I played with Sophia… there is never a shortage of delicious foods when we visit my family. Despite the casualness of it all, I was happy to know that (Sophia, hubby and) I mattered and that people made time for us on a Friday night.

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You know what that is, right? Reading? Yes, reading. The kind where the book isn’t a magazine. Because magazines aren’t reading — they are perusing/skimming. Anyway, reading has become quite a luxury and I indulged in it heavily last week.

I indulged in two books, the first called A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini and the second one is Autobiography by Ben Franklin. The latter surprisingly good but the former was extraordinary.

Hosseini’s book explores complex relationships of mothers and daughters. It especially highlights the way these universal concepts play out in an austere society. I won’t give away the story but am quite happy I don’t wear a burqa and have the right to education. Even happier, I took advantage of the privilege right.

Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography while not yet finished serves as a refresher course for how to conduct oneself. What it means to respect and be respected and how to conduct your daily interactions with all people. Also highly recommended.

General

{this moment} – A Friday ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Beach

Moments

Children are happiest when their parents are happy. Happiness and what makes people happy differs from individual to individual. For me, happiness is travel. I cannot say I was unhappy, but I am content — now.

Hubby and me, the beach, a few days, a few books and a glass of something cold. Nothing fancy … the glamour of it all is that for us, life’s biggest luxuries are time, sun and quiet.

We did the unthinkable — left Sophia behind for a few days with Baba and Deda and headed off to sleep, read, rest, unwind, catch up and make sure new places, new people, and new foods still excited us.

Leaving her was easy. We had an understanding with my parents that they will follow our agreed-on routine and we trusted them. The most difficult part was trying not to think about Sophia and wonder what she must be doing.

As they say, nothing worthwhile comes easy. I couldn’t wait to run off the plane, to get in the car, to run into the house and to hug that child of ours. I hoped there were no delays. I missed her terribly.

It was good for us because we are not just mom and dad but regular ordinary people with hobbies, interests, and busy routines. It was good for Sophia because she will learn that while noone can replace parents, family is a close, close second. Will we leave her again? Probably not. It isn’t what you think. It’s simply that as she gets older, traveling will become easier and we will relish discovering new places with Sophia–through her eyes.

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We visit my family quite a bit. In turn, they visit us often too. I’m always touched when I see Sophia’s slightly unsteady run toward our kitchen’s sliding door when hubby or I exclaim that Baba and Deda are here. Likewise, I’m always overcome with a sense of peace/relief when I peer through the window in the front door of my parents’ home and see my dad’s enthusiastic jaunt to open it for us.

Shortly after we arrive home to Delaware, it is becomes obvious that our favorite dishes are are on the stove. My mom is quick to point out that she made a few things for Sophia and that she wants to see what our little girl thinks of them. The house is filled with quiet excitement — a few precious days together.

As we usually arrive in the evening, we catch up and plan the next day or two over dinner. The next morning after hearing Sophia rouse, we invariably hear a faint knock. One of my parents is asking for the baby, offering for us to sleep in.
At first, I resist giving the baby to them, knowing they worked all week and could use the rest. After a few minutes, I relent but find that sleep evades me, anyway. I dress and come down to watch how Sophia plays and coos in my mom’s lap. I smell freshly brewed coffee, run for a hot cup and continue to catch up with my mom. I ask her why she goes to such great lengths when we come. Time and again she says that this is how it was when she, my dad, sister and I visited my Baba and Deda and this is how it should be when kids come home for a visit. She is quick to add that she wishes she made this and that: more of hubby’s favorite dishes. I’m quick to ask what about what I like?! She laughs and says that she likes to please her sons. “I don’t have to impress you; you will forgive me always”.
The time to go home creeps up and I or hubby find ourselves playing the role of Inspector General surveying goodies heading home with us. I try to limit what goes in the goody bag(s) being conscientious of the labor that goes into cooking or buying it and not wanting to take advantage. When we leave, my husband and I reminisce on yet another 5 star, all-inclusive experience. We will be back. We will always be back.
What makes the whole experience so irresistible, so amazing, isn’t the food or stiff, clean linens. It is that we simply feel expected, welcome, and thought of.

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We all know about Generations X and Y (the Millennials) and now, I present to you generation i. Generation iEverything to be more precise. My daughter is our latest [and greatest] member of this generation. What makes her a member of the i generation? Quite simply put — the fact that she is not yet 18 months old and has figured out how to use our old iPhones and the iPad.

There is simply no tricking this kid. She can’t be confined to one 2-minute episode of “Elmo” (Sesame Street). As it finishes, she simply clicks “Back” and scrolls — that’s right, scrolls — down until she finds one she likes. She selects it on YouTube, presses play and happily sits back entertained by the little multicolored creatures as they sing.

I haven’t quite figured out if I should be terrified or pleased. On the one hand, that’s pretty great that she can set up her own entertainment. On the other hand, however, what does this teach her? That technology is everywhere, that she can have information on demand and patience and rewards or special things are overrated. I gather than parenting is altogether more difficult even though we have everything available for parents and children all the time.

I am reminded of a conversation I had with our pediatrician awhile back — probably Sophia’s 14th month appointment. We were talking about her diet and what she can and cannot eat. Our doctor is a strong proponent of trying everything with the exception of shellfish. Even nuts before 2 are back en vogue. I asked him about chocolate and he looked at me a little taken back and said: “Yes, she can have chocolate but as an extremely rare, special occasion treat”. I wonder if he would say the same thing if I asked him if she can have a hand-me-down iPhone?

Flavors Life

Things… things, not people. Otherwise, I’d start this post with “my baby, … hubby”…

There are those classics that never go out of style and then there are trends. I like to maintain plenty of classics and then update with a few things that are “in” that I happen to be jonesing for.

  • Boyfriend watches – hubby finds me amazing ones that are made in china in the same factories as fancy shmancy ones. They work just as well, look just the same and cost a fraction (a small one) of the price. I would agree that watches are something of an accessory and as such should be fine, except I beat mine up while taking over the world working. I also like to layer the watches with a few delicate bracelets to balance out the chunkiness of the watch.
  • Amazing ballet flats – because I am a mom now and heels are tough when lugging a giant meatball baby.
  • Anything from Anthropologie – though I usually limit myself to the sale rack there. Prices are quite steep and they take markdowns often…

Style

{this moment} – A Friday ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

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Moments

Moments — the kind I post every week. Each one a snapshot of something special to me. Tied together, they tell a story. Enjoy almost a full year of moments with us. *Please turn the volume up as you play the video.

Past Present

What’s the one thing you remember from your Passover Seder? I remember the food, the aromas, the laughter and of course the family and friends who come together to celebrate.

I remember my mother’s matzo balls, gefilte fish, my sister’s brisket, my mother-in-law’s heavenly kosher for passover chocolate concoctions. Being married is difficult during the holidays; both our families host and we have to alternate who we celebrate with.

My husband’s Bubbie has hosted a dinner in the same place for as many years as I can remember. She makes chicken soup with matzo balls and gefilte fish … those are her special touches. We look forward to seeing her, hubby’s uncles, their families and being together.

On my side of the family, my mom and sister trade off hosting. They always help each other and sometimes [hubby and] I help as well.

Last year, we didn’t go anywhere since Sophia was so young and Seder fell on a weeknight. Hubby didn’t have enough vacation days at work, Sophia was very little and so we stayed home. I am not even sure we had matzo ball soup. We were disappointed and a little lonely, and vowed to celebrate with our family next (this) year.

First night of Passover fell on a Monday (yesterday) this year, and yet again, a trip up north to Delaware/Pennsylvania seemed rather difficult. Instead of missing out on the festivities, we decided to host here in Maryland. It was quite an undertaking and I was a little apprehensive about it. Since it was our first Seder in this house, we decided to have two other firsts: first time using our nice china and first time using silverware that Bubbie gifted us for the wedding.

Table

The attendees were my parents, hubby’s parents and his two grandmothers and my sister, brother-in-law and nephew. The menu was a smorgasbord of jewish delicacies including my mother’s homemade gefilte fish, mother-in-laws flour-less chocolate cake, Bubbie’s brownies, my chicken soup with matzo balls and, of course, the brisket. It was a great time.

Mains

 

Desserts

A lot of work, a lot of smiles, laughter, memories remembered from holidays past and new ones made. I am ready for a weekend … 🙂 too bad it is Tuesday. Will I do this again? yes, absolutely.

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